How to Connect when Speaking Another Language.

SPEAKING ANOTHER LANGUAGE: VULNERABILITY IN ACTION.

I recently wrote an article about why imperfection is best when it comes to speaking English. But what is imperfection in the context of speaking another language? And why is it so important?

Really, embracing imperfection is giving yourself permission to try, to dare, to take risks, to fail. It’s giving yourself permission to use imperfect grammar, not have all the expressions or vocabulary. But doing this in a professional environment often feels hugely exposing. Is it really worth the risk?

Imperfection is Vulnerability

Willingness to embrace imperfection is an example of vulnerability in action. Vulnerability is defined as ‘risk, uncertainty and emotional exposure’. Speaking another language is all of those things. Doing so imperfectly, even more so.

Speaking another language = Nakedness

Embracing the imperfection of speaking another language opens us up to feel hugely exposed. We are stripped of all of our usual armour – our status, our charismatic way with words, our flow, our ability to rely on wit and humour, our extensive vocabulary from which to carefully select, our typical command of tone, intonation, stress. We feel reduced in stature, influence and impact. There is a nakedness associated with speaking another language.

Vulnerability is a Bridge

But here’s the thing. You may feel naked, unsure, uncomfortable, exposed, or even at risk, but vulnerability is how we connect with others. Vulnerability is a bridge; a bridge from one person to another. By choosing to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we are choosing to show our imperfection, and others can recognise themselves in that too. Imperfection is universal. It’s what we all share; it’s what we all have in common. By being vulnerable, we show our commonalities. By being vulnerable in our imperfection, we build a bridge of connection.

Does connection really matter?

Connection is key

The ultimate goal when we speak to others, is to connect. In business it is no different – the best presentations, the deals that get closed, the negotiations that get signed, the pitches that win, are all ultimately built on connection.

When we connect, we trust.

When we trust, we do business.

So What?

So the next time you feel compelled to strive for perfection when you speak English... don’t.

When you feel compelled to learn your presentation word for word... don’t.

When you feel the urge to learn 500 fancy new English words to impress your audience... don’t.

Do embrace your imperfect English, as counterintuitive and as risky as it may feel, do and use it as a means to connect. Without striving for perfection, you’re less stressed, more human and a better connector. Win win.

After all, the more humanity they see in you, the more likely they are to connect with you, and the more likely want to do business with you.